Two Rules for Happiness

For a happy family life, there are two main rules. They apply to both women and men. And they really work. And those who know nothing about these

rules are forced to waste their time and nerves on unsuitable people.

The first rule: Relationships between partners should be easy.

From the very beginning, from the first minutes, it should be easy. When you feel next to someone like an old acquaintance, it’s much more pleasant than with someone you have to court for years. A guy with whom you are ready to go to the ends of the earth after 20 minutes of acquaintance is better than one to whom you wrote unanswered letters for years. A girl who shows interest in a young man right away is much better than that aloof beauty who first needs to be taken somewhere to Bali. Simple means good. Complicated means bad.

This is an axiom that doesn’t need proving. In relationships, you shouldn’t have to prove anything at your expense.

You shouldn’t have to adjust to anyone, chase anyone, or run after anyone. If you do this even once, you will be doing it all the time, day after day. And in return, you’ll see only a dissatisfied, capricious expression on their face. If it doesn’t click right away, why drag it out? That just means they’re not your person. Such complicated relationships are suitable for those who are bored with life and have a lot of free time. For everyone else, this hassle will only ruin your nerves.

You shouldn’t have to drag such complicated relationships alone because when all you do is dance to someone else’s tune—it becomes humiliating and sooner or later your patience will wear out… Don’t allow yourself to be dragged into complicated relationships.

The second rule: Relationships should bring joy.

Although this rule is second, it is no less important and also doesn’t need proof. As soon as your relationship stops bringing joy and satisfaction—stop it right at the root.

Under no circumstances should you get used to arguments, tears, quarrels, and broken dishes. Long discussions, accusations, and mutual blame shouldn’t be done. Such relationships are not normal! They won’t lead to anything good! As soon as the joy and lightness leave the relationship—they become useless…

Many people accumulate their grievances in their best years. They occupy their minds with unnecessary quarrels. You absolutely should not do this! As soon as you realize that your words aren’t bringing joy—just stop talking. As soon as a quarrel starts—leave. Don’t let guilt be imposed on you with accusations and blame. Don’t tolerate it! Relationships are meant for joy! Everything else—”everyone lives like this,” “for the sake of the kids,” “out of habit”—should just be taken and thrown away.

Two such simple rules…

 

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